As a mom of two young ones who has taken time (years) off work to raise them, and watched her savings dwindle down to nothing, I share your anger and frustration. I want a job that pays me money! That builds a pension! I dream of owning a house! But also I have two darling little kids at home who need attention, need nurturing, need raising, need love. How can I build their future and my own?
It’s so hard. They say that women can multi-task yet I feel that that is only in the areas that do not affect our heart/spirit . Yes I can cook, clean, garden, do laundry etc, all at the same time but when it comes to work that requires real thought and concentration and love - being a mother, running a course, doing a performance - then I cannot. I must solely focus on one and give it 100% of my attention. This means that when I had young children, I became mother. It was the time of the great disappearing. I reappeared of course, we do - and then desperately try and repair and work on the other passions we had that are now overgrown like untended gardens, covered with weeds and whole paths that have disappeared. We should trust that the soil/soul that lies within them now is so much richer …. Both of my children are now wealthier than me - that brings me joy. My daughter pays, once a year for me to fly to her in the States. My son can fly here from the UK. There was a time that I was the one that covered their costs, now it is reversed. …… I don’t really know what I am saying here other than what we nurture, nurtures us.
Thank you, Katrice. What a beautiful and reassuring message to read and receive. I like the idea of being an overgrown garden. It feels very fitting to this scattered period of my life!!!! But also, that the soil will be richer, and desired paths can be uncovered, when the time is right.
"What we nurture, nurtures us." This is why I'm returning to writing publicly. To reclaim my identity as a writer, in the pockets where I am able. I want to find my authentic voice, not based on what editors demand or what I think others want to read, but write to share what I want/have to say. That's the goal - to remove the lump that exists in my throat, too. To let it go and write freely.
Thank you for sharing and for your honesty. I appreciate it.
As a mom of two young ones who has taken time (years) off work to raise them, and watched her savings dwindle down to nothing, I share your anger and frustration. I want a job that pays me money! That builds a pension! I dream of owning a house! But also I have two darling little kids at home who need attention, need nurturing, need raising, need love. How can I build their future and my own?
It’s so hard. They say that women can multi-task yet I feel that that is only in the areas that do not affect our heart/spirit . Yes I can cook, clean, garden, do laundry etc, all at the same time but when it comes to work that requires real thought and concentration and love - being a mother, running a course, doing a performance - then I cannot. I must solely focus on one and give it 100% of my attention. This means that when I had young children, I became mother. It was the time of the great disappearing. I reappeared of course, we do - and then desperately try and repair and work on the other passions we had that are now overgrown like untended gardens, covered with weeds and whole paths that have disappeared. We should trust that the soil/soul that lies within them now is so much richer …. Both of my children are now wealthier than me - that brings me joy. My daughter pays, once a year for me to fly to her in the States. My son can fly here from the UK. There was a time that I was the one that covered their costs, now it is reversed. …… I don’t really know what I am saying here other than what we nurture, nurtures us.
Thank you, Katrice. What a beautiful and reassuring message to read and receive. I like the idea of being an overgrown garden. It feels very fitting to this scattered period of my life!!!! But also, that the soil will be richer, and desired paths can be uncovered, when the time is right.
"What we nurture, nurtures us." This is why I'm returning to writing publicly. To reclaim my identity as a writer, in the pockets where I am able. I want to find my authentic voice, not based on what editors demand or what I think others want to read, but write to share what I want/have to say. That's the goal - to remove the lump that exists in my throat, too. To let it go and write freely.
Thank you for sharing and for your honesty. I appreciate it.